I don’t know about you, but I’ve had some pretty bad tarot readings in the past.
One of the worst readings I ever had was the catalyst in helping me decide to offer readings myself! It was so bad I thought - I can do better than that! And here I am. So, in a way, that reading was exactly what I needed.
That reading took me on my own journey to become a professional tarot reader myself!
Some readers out there are really wonderful. They make you feel really held and safe and pass on empowering inspiring and helpful messages that help you to move forward.
Other readers can leave you feeling a little bit like “what the heck just happened?”
We often get people coming into the Spiritual Journey Pitstop group on Facebook to chat about a difficult or confusing tarot reading experience.
And I get DMs all the time from people telling me something negative or even scary a reader said to me and asking me what I think.
I see so many people giving their power away to readers and even worse, I see so many readers taking away their client’s power too! Ew!
Times have changed. We are no longer going to readers to tell us what is going to happen and then send us on our way.
We want sacred space held for us. We want our readers to be empowering, inspiring and we want to come out of our readings feeling like we know our next steps and are ready to take them.
And if that is the kind of reading you want, here are some tips on how to get the best tarot reading you possibly can!
1. Do your research before booking a reading
There are no degrees or diplomas for us tarot readers and anybody with a deck can make a website, join social media and start selling readings these days.
Not all tarot readers have your best interests at heart. That sucks to hear, but it’s true.
This ranges from readers who talk to their clients like they’re stupid, talk smack about their clients after the session or even convince their clients that they have a curse and need to pay X amount of money to have it removed. ICK.
The best way to choose a reader is to do your research.
Look at their website. Read their blogs. Look at their social media and especially watch their videos. Use your intuition to decide if that person is a good fit for you.
Is this someone you would trust with your deepest secrets and your dreams? Would you feel safe sharing the hard parts of your life with them?
Look at their reviews. On my website I have a page of Praise where I even link to the websites of people who have offered up their kind words. Before you work with me you’re always welcome to send those people a message and ask what working with me is like!
If you find a reader with no reviews, no videos and not much info about them, I’d keep scrolling.
Unless of course you have an intuitive hit and you just *know* this is the person you need to see! Always trust your gut!
But do be aware that if there are no reviews or if this person doesn’t show their face online, there may be a reason for that!
2. Ask questions!
Your reader should be available for questions, or maybe they will even have an FAQ page! If you have questions about your reading, ask them!
You may like to ask about the format of the reading, if there’s anything you need to do to prepare. Maybe you want to know if they work with spirit guides and angels or mediumship.
You might like to know if the reading will be a conversation where you get to talk about what’s going on for you, or if it’s more about them just passing on messages.
Some readers will just sit and talk at you for an hour, others will work with you more like a coach and invite you to speak about what’s coming up for you. Some will be a bit of both.
It’s so much better to ask and feel prepared than to bring any anxiety, confusion or unanswered questions into the space.
3. Think about your questions
It’s really helpful for readers if you know what your questions are beforehand.
You can even write them down if you think you’ll forget, or email them ahead of time if your reader is open to that.
I can’t tell you how many readings I’ve done where the client has said they don’t really have a question and then ten minutes before the end they say – oh, but what I really wanted to know…
We may be “psychic” but that doesn’t mean we are mind readers.
Sure, some readers will know your question, but for me, and plenty of other readers I know, we work a little differently.
A really specific question helps me tune into your energy and the messages start to come through so much more clearly from that anchor point.
For many readers, a specific question will get you a specific answer, and general readings usually get general answers.
So please, ask your questions and make sure you get the answers you want, and then if there is time, let your reader tune into whatever else is going on.
