Higher Self Relationship Healing

Healing relationships can be one of the most difficult things we're ever called to do on this path.

Relationships are such incredible opportunities for growth, learning and expansion, but at the same time many of them are catalysts for pain, sadness, regret, depression, heartache and well, you catch my drift.

I have found much peace and understanding with the relationships in my own life by working with my higher self and the higher selves of others.

This is a great way to heal stuff with people who are no longer in your life, people you can't just call or write to for a chat, people you don't want to have this out with in person and those passed over.

Connect with your own higher self

If you haven't done much work connecting with your own higher self I suggest you do this first. Spend some time in meditation with an intention to get to know, meet with you and connect with your Higher Self. We do a lot of work on this in Woo Woo 101! 

Your higher self is just like your soul self, that part of you that is so much more than your name and appearance in this life!

Create an intention for what you'd like to heal

This works best when you focus on one relationship and issue you'd like to heal and better understand. Work out what it is you want to do.

Do you want understanding? Do you want to be able to forgive someone? Do you want someone to be able to forgive you? 

Let go of outcomes

Sometimes what comes through when we do this work is a deep healing, sometimes it's a light-bulb moment where we realise actually the situation we want healed is really nothing to do with us and more about that person's healing journey.

When I have done this work I've had all sorts of different things come in. I've had a deep peace and healing feeling in my heart afterwards, big clearing and a knowledge that all karma is cleared from many lifetimes. I've also had what have felt like very casual chats with people.

It's so often not about that person, but something deep within ourselves that needs love and healing. Some people push our buttons and trigger us but it has nothing to do with them or even our relationship with them, but everything to do with what's going on for us. 

The Two of Cups is the perfect card for manifesting good relationship outcomes x - Fountain Tarot x

Create space

When you're ready, create a sacred space.

Of course you can do this anywhere, and it can be just as powerful to do it on the bus! But I do like to put some candles on, have some chilled out music playing, a notebook near by for important downloads and make sure I'm not going to be disturbed half way.

Tune in + Call in your peeps

Make sure you're energy is clear, grounded and protected. When you're working with your higher self and calling in the higher selves of others you want to make sure you're safe.

Call on Archangel Michael (or protector of choice!) to protect you both, and you may also like to bring in specific angels or energies based on what you'd like to heal and clear.

Archangel Raphael is always on hand for some healing, Mother Mary is especially good for relationship work and Archangel Zadkiel is always great to have around for clearing, forgiveness and emotional healing. 

If you feel that you have a karmic connection with this person that needs to be removed you can always give the Lords of Karma a bell too.

The Healing work

So now you're going to get into your higher self space and energy.

I do this by going into deep meditation and then either visualising my own energy above me or sort of zooming up and out above myself.

State (out loud or in your head is fine!) that you are calling on your higher self connection.

Once you feel connected to your higher self ask the higher self of the person you'd like some healing with to come in. Ask for their permission: "Hey there, higher self of James Franco (or insert name here!), would it be OK for you to connect for a mo?" Or however formally you'd like to do it!

Whether you feel them present or not don't worry, just start to speak to them. I like doing this out-loud, or whisper soft if other people are home! LOL!

Ask them what you need to know about the relationship, their path, your path together and any lessons that you are learning from this relationship. 

Just sit and allow the conversation and connection to flow. You may have a brilliant chat, you may just feel clarity, love, peace. You may just sit and cry.

Trust that whatever happens is what needs to happen. If nothing happens it may not be the right time, or you don't have the permission of the person to connect with their higher self. Sometimes we can't clear and heal things before we've learned what we needed to. 

The Six of Cups always takes me back to the past... x - Robin Wood Tarot x

Afterwards

Thank their higher self for coming to you, thank your guides, angels and whoever else was present. Thank your own higher self for their assistance.

You may want to sit in meditation for a while longer or write some notes or pull a card. Whatever you do take some time to come out of this higher self state and make sure you ground your energy when you're ready to come back.

Of course, this is deep healing work so this post is really just the tip of the iceberg of healing in this way, but it's a great starting point! If you want to grab a session with me we can explore your relationship stuff together, or  you're interested in being able to do more of this kind of work on your own you may wanna check out my online courses! 

With so much love, light and mega high vibe healing,

Vix

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21 Ways to Raise your Vibration!

There’s a lot of heaviness out there in the cosmos just now and it’s super hard work staying high vibe when all you feel like doing is crying at the news coverage and hiding under the doona for the rest of the week.

I think it’s super important to be informed and to do what you can, but there’s also a point where we need to stop feeling emo and sorry for ourselves and start shining our lights again. Even brighter than before! 

It sounds shit I know. Why should we feel amazing about our lives when there is so much bad stuff happening? But the more of us that are on this planet with a high vibe, the better it is for everyone. Crying into a pizza and not getting your blog post done helps no one. 

You might not be able to physically do much at times, but by staying high vibe and doing all the stuff your soul came here to do, you are making a huge difference.

Never underestimate the impact your high vibe has on this planet!

Keep one eye on the news, keep signing petitions to change things, donate money to good causes when you can, be kind as much as poss to as many as you can and take whatever other action feels good and right to you right now. 

And when you're all good deed-ed out, try these:

 

Breathe

Sometimes all you can do is breathe. Breathing is awesome. We all breathe so high up these days, bring it doooooown. Breath with me now. Breathe in, keep breathing, keep breathing in, keep breathing in, now hold it for a second at the top, hold it, hold it! Now let it out. Ah, don't you feel so much better? :D

Sing

Nobody ever stayed low-vibe at a sing-a-long. Even if you're too cool to actually sing a long, you can't help but be raised up by singing voices!

Dance

OK, this isn't a musical, but musicals are pretty high vibe. How about you dance to something like this. 

PATS

Animals love pats... mostly. Find one and cuddle it. If it doesn't want to be cuddled don't be offended, just sit near it and soak up it's awesomeness. Cats are best for this. :D

Hug

Hug someone. If you don't have anyone to hug, hug a tree, or ask your angels to swoop down for one

Tea

It's just awesome. 

Watch

Binge on your favourite TV show or movie. Watch anything that raises your vibe. I like Charmed, Sabrina the Teenage Witch, Back to the Future, Xanadu, Pretty in Pink and Twilight. :D 

Listen

OMG cranking your fave tracks never fails to raise the vibe. Make yourself a high vibration playlist on Spotify (or wherever!) and add ONLY songs that make you freak out with funness.

Smell

Literally smell something amazing. I like burning oils in my oil burner thingy. Maybe you wanna get some real life flowers or wear your favourite perfume even on a night in alone!

Wear

Wear clothes that make you feel high vibe. Stay away from too many darks emo colours. Everyone loves their black skinny jeans, but can we team them with some sequins perhaps? Sequins everywhere! :D 

Meditate

Find a guided meditation that will help you raise your vibe - I love Diana Cooper + Doreen Virtue for high vibe meditations, but you can use anything! Even just listening to some chill out music and closing your eyes will do the trick!

Smile

Even if you're on the tube right now and will look like a total dick. Do it anyway! :D 

Pizza

I mean come on. It's pizza. If you don't do pizza, whatever your personal pizza is. 

The Beach

The beach is a great place to get high vibe. If you can't literally go, visualise your happy place! 

Lights

Pop on some fairy lights and you'll wonder how you could ever be sad again.

Read

Corny one, but yes, reading something inspiring or fun will totally raise your vibe. I highly recommend Sweet Valley High, Baby Sitter's Club and my novel 1983 (once it's out! #manifest!).

Phone a Friend

Call someone for a chit chat. No Facebook chats here folks, make it the real deal, where you actually talk. On a phone. Remember when before the internet or mobile phones??! :-O

Tidy

Urgh, like that's high vibe? Well, your vibe will be a lot higher once you're done! You know it's true. #SorryNotSorry

Write

Journal out your thoughts, write about stuff, write letters to Angels, write letters to those passed over loved ones, write about your past and send messages to your future!

Walk

Go for a walk outside. If it's raining or freezing go anyway! :D

Workout

Yoga is always good, but you'd be amazed at how high you can get from 80's workouts. You'll be sore for days, but it's fun! 

And then have a bonus one of an early night! You've deserved it after all that fun and vibe raising! Phew! :D

With love, light and high vibes,

Vix

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How to Come out of the Spiritual Closet (and what to do when people don't get it) x

It's not always easy to talk about and share your spiritual beliefs, especially when you're not really sure how people are going to respond. 

In my life I've been really pleasantly surprised by how many people in my life have been totally down with what I'm doing, and most people, even if they don't totally "get it" are super supportive. 

Everyone is different, and each person in your life is going to respond to your woo woo differently. But I've put together some of the most common reactions you're going to get from people once you start putting yourself out there as a starting point to help you begin to crack open that closet door!

Check out the video below for a chat and a ramble about my personal experiences which hopefully will help you too. x

Clues for kindred spirits

A really super easy, very painless way to start coming out of the spiritual closet is to give people clues. I wear crystals, dreamcatchers, chakra colours, angel wing earrings, t-shirts that say "good vibes only". Sometimes I go all out, sometimes I just wear one thing. It's my way of expressing my spirituality even if I'm not going to be actually telling people about my beliefs. 

I look for clues that other people are offering up too. When I see someone wearing crystals or gemstones I ask them what stone it is, and make a comment on what it's healing properties are to suss out if we're on the same page! 

Other really easy "ins" are to talk about star signs and moon cycles. When you ask someone what star sign they are or offer up info about your own it's letting people know that you're into astro stuff, which let's face it, is pretty mainstream anyway. If you get a good vibe from that person, talk to them about numerology, tarot or whatever else you're into and see where it goes!

Curious Cats

A lot of people won't be into it, but they might be a bit curious. These folks are awesome to come out to. They will be really interested and ask you weird questions and they might even ask you to read their cards. 

In my experience I've found a lot more people are in this category than I thought. I was worried about telling people for a long time that I was a tarot reader, but when I did, most people were totally fine with it and actually really interested!

Coming out to curious cats is easy, you get to be a novelty, these folks think your spirituality is quirky and weird but kind of cool, and some of them even end up getting into it too! 

 

Understanding Types

These are the people who you can talk to about your beliefs, but they aren't that excited about your new Angel cards. They see that you're happy and your path is awesome for you and they are really happy for you, but they have their own beliefs and their own journey, but plenty of respect for yours too so it's all good. 

You can have some great talks with these folks about spirituality and religion over a beer, but don't expect to be able to drag them to Chakra Dance. 

Uninterested Individuals

They don't get it and are not interested in anyway, and hey, that's totally cool. 

They might have their own belief systems or ideas about the universe that clash with yours, or they might just really not want to even think about that stuff. These are the people who really don't want to hear about your new deck or the unicorn meditation you did this morning. 

It's not because they don't like you or don't want to be friends with you any more. It's kind of like if your friend was really into golf and you were just like, not. You wouldn't want to hang around and listen to golf stories all day. 

You can keep these friendships solid by talking about all the other stuff that's happening in your life when you're hanging out with them. 

Nasty Nancys

And then you get the people who are actually mean to you about your beliefs. Ouch! 

They might not be really mean, they might just be passive aggressive or joke about your beliefs.

First thing you need to do with these guys is pull them up on it. Tell them it's not actually OK to be mean or make fun of other people's beliefs and see how that goes. If they keep doing it and it's making you feel bad, you don't have to hang out with those people. Your real friends might be uninterested in your spiritual journey, but they'll never make you feel like crap about it. 

The really difficult ones

We were talking in Spiritual Journey Pitstop last week about telling your family, or other people in your life when you know they just aren't going to be even a little bit OK with it. 

To this I say - you don't have to tell them, or if they do know already and it upsets or worries them, you don't have to talk to them about it. When they ask you about it or tell you it's the Devil's work or whatever, just say you don't want to talk about it, change the subject or whatever else works for you. 

You should never lie about who you are or what you believe in, but you also don't have to put yourself in difficult situations by opening up to people before you (or they!) are totally ready.

You can still show people who you are, and be authentically you without wearing your Hug Me I'm Woo Woo t-shirt. 

There has never been a safer time for us to come out and share what we're up to, but it's OK if you don't want to share that with the whole world just now. Start with online groups or friends you know are going to get it and work your way up to telling the whole world. 

Be you, shine your light and share your crystal collection with people who are going to appreciate it. To everyone else, just focus on sharing love and light... for now. 

Love, light and coming out of closets,

Vix

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